My fault for not noting the "delay lubricant." My boyfriend and I (both men) decided to buy these to try them out and it just made it hard for him to come while topping (we typically come at the same time without delay lubricant, though, so that's why.) We found that you can easily scoop out the lubricant if desired, since it's just a small blob in the tip of the condom. He said the lubricant didn't feel unpleasant otherwise, just numbing. The dotting on the condoms weren't terribly noticeable in my opinion, but still a bit nice stimulation-wise. Overall, I'd only advise buying these if the person on bottom takes a lot longer to comd and if the person on top has enough stamina to keep going that long, since it can be pretty tiring.